What Does Your Boss Really Want?

A Note to the Organisational Leader

Through surveys and caddying connections, the same disconnect keeps surfacing. You’re wrestling with emerging leaders who lack initiative or ownership. You want to mentor them but can’t find the time. And somewhere in the gap between your expectations and their performance, both of you are getting frustrated.

Here’s the thing: they want to grow. The same surveys show emerging leaders are hungry for strategic thinking, better decision-making and managing expectations. The hunger is there. But they don’t always know how to direct it in ways you can see and trust.

This piece names what you actually want from them. Pass it on. Let it do some of the talking for you.

To the Emerging Leader

You’re working hard. You’re showing up. You want to go further.

But here’s an uncomfortable question worth sitting with: are you working hard climbing a ladder on the wrong wall?

The surveys we ran with emerging and organisational leaders revealed a consistent gap — not a skills gap, not an intelligence gap, but a mutual understanding gap. Leaders don’t always know what their bosses actually want. And bosses don’t always have time to spell it out.

So let me spell it out for you.

SOURCE RESOURCE: The Ideal Team Player: How to Recognize and Cultivate The Three Essential Virtues Patrick Lencioni (2016)

Hungry

Not ambitious in the self-serving sense. Hungry for the organisation to flourish — and hungry to grow yourself in ways that serve that flourishing.

What does that look like practically? Start by getting crystal clear on what your organisation is actually trying to achieve, specific to your role. Then ask: how can i drive better outcomes in that space? Have that conversation with your upline — not to impress them, but to check your understanding.

Then go further. What training would equip you to deliver better outcomes? What networks do you need to build? What relationships would help you serve the organisation more effectively?

And notice the thread running through all of this: outcomes. Your boss isn’t primarily interested in your effort. They’re interested in your impact. What numbers are you chasing? What hard data proves you’re making a difference?

Hungry leaders chase outcomes, not just activity.

Humble

This is the one people misread.

Humble doesn’t mean thinking less of yourself. It means thinking of others’ success — and the organisation’s success — before your own.

Cut pride and hubris from your professional life. When something goes well, ask who else made it possible. When something goes wrong, resist the urge to protect your reputation first. Put the organisation and your people before your personal brand.

That posture — that willingness to be a servant to something bigger than yourself — is rarer than you think. And bosses notice it immediately. They may not acknowledge it, but it’s noticeable.

Smart

Here we’re not talking about your IQ or your qualifications. We’re talking about emotional intelligence — and most emerging leaders underestimate how much this matters.

How well do you actually listen? Not wait-for-your-turn listening, but real listening — the kind where you’re tracking what someone means, not just what they say. Are you aware of your own body language? Do you read a room?

And perhaps most importantly: how well do you know yourself? Your personality, your defaults under pressure, your blind spots, your family-of-origin patterns that show up at work whether you invite them or not. Tools like Myers-Briggs, the Enneagram, and Belbin team roles are worth exploring — not as labels, but as mirrors.

Know your strengths. Know your weaknesses. And build the people around you who complement what you’re not.

And One More Thing: Be a Moving Ship

A stationary ship can’t be steered. It needs momentum before the rudder has any effect.

Be someone who is growing, curious, and in motion — so that when your leaders try to guide and develop you, there’s something to work with. Show up to conversations having thought about things. Bring questions. Act on feedback. Be the kind of person who is moveable.

That quality — being a moving ship — is what makes everything else possible. Hunger, humility and smart matter. But none of it lands if you’re anchored in place.

Now you know how to impress your boss!

What would change for you this month if you quietly committed to being a little more hungry, a little more humble, and a little more self-aware?

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